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Thursday, May 23, 2013

Thinking Out Loud Thursday *22*

Late posting this, should have been up before but I got caught up in other stuff. :) So I am setting the date for the day it was supposed to be posted.

In The News

The weather keeps changing for the worse. I feel like we are in The Day After Tomorrow. Wheres Dennis & Jake? Oh and Emmy? lol

Yea, storms that have been tokened to be hundred year storms are coming in every year. Things are shifting and not for the better. How are we going to all be able to come together and make a concious effort to prevent any furthuer damage to the earth.

Truthfully I cant say that people as a whole can even be capable of that.
The boy scouts are in my opinion horrible for seriously having an open ban on gays. Whether or not its youths or adults. Just because they are gay does not mean they are crazy. And just because they are gay does not mean their gayness will be passed umongst them

When is the world going to learn to accept people for who they are and who they want to be, especially when they are not hurting anyone.

The fact that sexual oreintation and skin color are still a factor for many people in 2013 is very disturbing to me. A man was killed in the village in Manhattan this past week, simply because he was gay. The gays are here to stay and the majority are becoming the minority and people better start getting used to it.

Russian mobsters sent a guy to collect money and it appears to me that the guy might have had the wrong address. He threatened a group of college students. Obviously they did not have a lot of money so they gave him what they had and went to the atm to get more, where one called 911.

It all ended with the robber and a gorgeous young coed with a twin getting murdered BY THE POLICE!!!!!

These assholes open fired on the robber while he was holding the girl as a hostage!!

How this happened is completely beyond me. The stupidity and the carelessness of this particular officer is sickening. I hope he looses his badge, his house, and everything else....

Sometimes the police have just way too much power and athority. It took a few days for it to break that it was actually the officer who fired the shots and not the robber. I feel really bad for the girls family and friends. Friendly fire is not a good way to lose your life.


Its really funny to me to see how people change over time. The way things start off and end between two people is fascinating. I used to always analyze others situations and come up with conclusions why things go the way they go.

I havent done it so much as of recently because I have cut hella drama out of my life over the years.

But I love starting new relationships and seeing where they go and how they progress. Also the fact that time is a really big factor in my opinion. If things start off really good and really fast they do tend to fizzle out much faster, in my opinion.

I think when meeting someone, how much you like the person should guage how fast things develop. Not that it is a horrible thing for things to move quickly, because I have seen relationships last for years between people who jumped into a relationship very quickly. But on the other hand doing so a lot of the time could be a very bad idea.

Another thing I have found to be funny is when you meet a guy and you show no particular interest and/or avoid any physical contact, it initiates the chase!

Good looking men who are used to women throwing themselves at them are very confused by women who do not. I love to just sit back and watch in that type of situation to see who comes out on top.

The Hair

I have been wearing the ponytail baggy consistently for going on 3 weeks now. I am dying!! I need hair inspiration so bad. I have no clue how I want to do my hair!!! The baggy has been good though. My ends are moisturized and I am not getting any breakage and no shedding!!! Woo hoo!!

I think I want to do another set of tree braids with a different curl pattern. Aside from that I am also thinking about doing some really long seneglese twists or getting some new virgin hair and bleaching it out blonde and do my Beyonce/Rhianna thing. LoL

I think the blonde hair will be the thing that will get me out of my hair funk. I hate not knowing what to do with my hair. Plus I have been wanting to go blonde for a while now. I have never gone just all out blonde before. I am excited to try it out for the first time though.

Saturday, May 18, 2013

Hair Diary *21* - Frequent Deep Conditioning

Long long ago when I grew my hair from 6" to MBL I found the key to keeping my hair intact and in the magical land of NO Breakage, I needed to deep condition my hair twice a week.

When you have a busy schedule it is pretty difficult to keep to a regimen like that. I found that setting reminders on my calender helps tremendously with keeing everything in order.

After following the calender for so long you get used to doing it and it becomes second nature. I am trying to get back to how I used to do my hair. Cowashes every 1-2 days, deep conditioning twice a week.

That is where my hair does its best.

Add in the protective styles and the protein, moisture balance and you have a recipe for growth.

Everyones hair is different and we all experience setbacks. That is a part of life in general. But once you find what works for your hair you really need to stick with it.

Sometimes the second you try something new or slack off in any way, you are asking for a huge setback. This was the case for me when I thought it would be a good idea to do a Brazillian Keratin Treatment.

My hair was beautiful afterward, but a year later I am starting all over again. I was at BSL when I did the BKT.

So basically this will be my third time growing my hair back out. It takes time to make it to your goals. for me it takes 2 years to grow from the scalp to MBL. Ive done that twice already.

My goal from now on is not to make a certain length, but to prevent future hairloss. It is very difficult and frustrating to make it to a goal and lose it all right away.

I have yet to really ever enjoy my hair at MBL.

I believe I will hit that goal again sometime next year and hopefully at that time I will not experience any setbacks for a very very long time.

Long hair is something I strive for not because I have never had it before, or because my hair wont grow. But I prefer my appearance with long natural curly hair.

We all can and will make our goals. The key is always stay consistent.

Wednesday, May 15, 2013

Hair diary *20* - Hardcore Protein Maaannnnn...

I was experiencing some serious breakage so it was necessary to do something drastic to stop it in its tracks.

My hair actually really likes protein and I have found it to be important to incorporate it into my regimen regularly. I have to keep up with my hardcore protien treatments every few months or else I experience breakage. In between I like to use Aphogee's reconstructor to cowash with or in my ponytail baggy.

In the video, I did the hardcore Aphogee 2 step, section by section. Rinsed and then deep conditioned with Lekairs, Aussie Moist 3 min miracle, and EVOO.

I let the conditioner sit overnight and rinsed in the morning. Added some suave humectant conditioner and I braided my hair down so that I could wear my lace wig for the next week.

The week after I wore my hair in a ponytail baggy and am actually still wearing it now.

I attempted to do my ponytail baggy a few months ago but because my hair was all over the place lengthwise it really wasnt a good idea. I experienced breakage and because the hair was so uneven I was making my ponytails too tight which would have caused thinning edges if I would have continued.

Now that my hair is pretty even it works out really well. My ends all fit into the baggy nicely and my baby hair syndrome has subsided as my hair grew out.

I decided to do only natural styles until at least July. I wanted to stay away from the weaves for a little while, but still keep up with my protective styles at the same time.

So far my hair is digging it and I am falling in love with my natural hair all over again. :)

Tuesday, May 14, 2013

Hair Diary *19* - Choppp!!!

So after I took down my Tree Braids I decided that it was time to let my uneven ends go.

I cant stand uneven ends and the fact that my hair does this every few years. For those who may not know I have been battling hormonal hair loss for 9 years now.

My hair used to be super, super thick and dense before all of this. The first time I got on birthcontrol I tried the Depo shot. I had a few complications with this so after the first shot I did not go back. Complications including hairloss.

Next I tried The Ring, which I actually loved but I noticed my hair was falling out like crazy. I thought it was because of the relaxer so I went natural. Later I realized it was The Ring.

A few years later I tried Mirena which caused a long laundry list of problems for me. The biggest one which was hair loss and cervical dysplaysia.

I am going to contribute my recent hair loss to BKT I did twice lase year and also MN which I tried for a month or so last year.

My hair literally purged.....

When new hair grows in the end of the hair is fine and tapered. My head is actually covered with these new hairs. I call new hairs baby hairs when they first grow in, and that initial grow out stage I like to refer to as baby hair syndrome because the baby hairs can be very difficult to control.

After the cut, I have a good 8" of hair, meaning none of my hair is older than a year and 4 months.

I chopped a good 3-6" of hair off depending on the section. It was the best thing to do because I was holding on to the length because I felt some type of way about having short hair again.

I needed to let go of the hair to let go of the fear and I am really happy I did. Now I can actually wear my natural hair out and not flip out about how silly it looks.

After the chop I still experienced a little breakage so I decided to do some hardcore treatments....

More about that in tomorrows post..

Monday, May 13, 2013

Hair Diary *18* - TreeBraid Takedown

I took down my tree braids about 2 weeks ago or so and posted the video on youtube here.

I wore the tree braids for a good 6 weeks and absolutely loved the style!

I kinda didnt want to take it out but it was getting pretty old so it was definitely time. My roots were growing out pretty well and I had between 1/2"-1" of new growth all over.

Taking down tree braids can be a little difficult so after taking out the first 2 braids I decided to cut off the length of the synthetic hair and then take town my braids. This made the takedown much simpler and faster.

I cowashed the roots and towel dried the synthetic hair to make the takedown much easier and faster.

As I unraveled the braids, the synthetic hair and any shed hair that had accumulated came out pretty easily.

After I finished taking them out I shampooed and deep conditioned overnight with a moisturizing deep conditioner. Rinsed and wore a wash and go until I noticed a lot of breakage on my ends....

Dun dun dunnnnn.....

To be continued...

Thursday, May 09, 2013

Thinking Out Loud Thursday - TOLT *21*

Im going to switch up my TOLT format. I want to talk more about current news, relationships, and of course Hair! It is getting a bit difficult to keep up with how I was posting before. Its hard to think out loud in a bulleted list. lol

In the News
Its awful and yet amazing to me to see all the different national stories going on in the news today. There have been so many tragic stories seemingly one right after another over the past few weeks, months, and years. From Jodi Arias to Trevon Martin. The Colorado movie theater and Sandy Hook elementary. The Boston Bombing and now the Cleveland kidnapping.

I would really like to know what is wrong with people and how they think that these things are ok and are what they should be doing.

Jodi and her imaginary crime of passion. Why would you go through so much to cover your tracks before hand if you didnt plan this all out well ahead of time. So obvious. Problem I have with her is that she is cute. What is with the sociopathic good looking people. They are always the ones. I think its crazy.

At least with that case the jury had more sense than those in the Casey Anthoney case. Lets hope the people of Florida have learned to put the pieces together for the Trevon Martin's case. Zimmerman needs to be behind bars.

In Life
Recently someone told me that a woman who does not go half on dinner after knowing someone for a good amount of time has no self respect.... He said she needs to "pull her own weight".
I personally find that to be extremely stupid and kind of selfish. In my opinion and in my experience if your are just dating a man and are not in a (key word) serious relationship you should know your worth. You should know and be open about what you are willing and not willing to do for him. In my experience men enjoy paying for dinner, drinks, movies and other things.

I was thrown aback by this comment and I am not sure I would be interested in creating a serious relationship with someone who has a problem with taking care of my needs. Im the type of girl who does not ask a guy for things. If he offers then cool, Im happy. But the fact that I am used to being told "No" by the few people who you would think would always say "Yes", I have grown to not even bother asking.

I like a man who can cherish his woman and in my opinion it shouldnt be 50/50 financially until a ring is put on her finger. The thing some men dont realize is that most of the time they are competing for the affection of a woman. Why should I put my time and energy and money into him when that is not required from someone else, who will treat me better.

Its not that I am not willing to dish out my own money for things. The biggest issue I have with this situation is that if someone offers or invites you out, in my opinion they should pay. That goes for all genders. If I invite you to my house, Im cooking. If I invite you to a restaurant, I will offer to pay.
Pull your own weight... LOL

If you dont live together I wouldnt consider that to have anything to do with the situation.

But the question bodes.... What do you think? Who pays for dinner? When should the woman pay?

The Hair
I totally suck about posting my videos in a timely manner on the blog. So since the last 3 videos or so have been posted on YT I am just going to do a few scheduled daily posts starting tomorrow for each video.

Since I cut my hair I have actually been able to wear my natural hair out and it looked great! During the week I have been wearing my infamous ponytail baggy. I really need to get a few more ponytails and will probably place an order for more in a few weeks. I still have the 3 that I bought last year and they are in good shape but obviously synthetic hair does not last very long.

I should venture into the human hair drawstring ponytails. I have only used the synthetic before because it is my preference but I want to see how long the human will last compared and how the hair feels.

I have become a bit of a snob when it comes to human hair. I wont wear it unless it is top of the line preferrably virgin. My lace wig has spoiled me and I havent been satisfied with less ever since I got her. <333 sigh="">
So thats my TOLT for the week. Hopefully I can find the time and keep up with it. LoL

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