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Thursday, March 19, 2009

Stupid people and dumb comments!

Ever since I started my youtube page I have been getting the most wonderful, nice, lovely, caring, kind, complimentary, all that good shit, comments, Under ALL of my videos! I am making these videos so that I can help other women learn about caring for natural hair, as well as documenting my hair on video instead of just pictures, and I am having fun with it doing what I like to do!

I have met some lovely people and enjoy building relationships with people who are outside of my state! But the haters just ruin it for the rest! I swear, I have gotten the most ignorant people who leave me the stupidest messages! I have gotten racists, stupid people who don't seem to know that what they are saying is inappropriate, sickos sending pics of their dingdongs, and all! I have tons of messages where people make "suggestions" on what I should have done or should use because what I did was not good enough! I don't care about all that mess and I don't really care about what other people think! I'm not going to lose any sleep because of what anyone says or thinks! I don't have time for that crap!!

But the problem is after a while and the more people there are watching and reading the more negativity they bring with them! Most of the time they have no idea what they are talking about! They make assumptions and talk out of their asses & try to make a point when they need to go and do something with themselves and their lives instead of worrying about me and mine.

The post I made previously was not me talking about what mistakes I made because my children are in no way shape or form a mistake! STUPID! I was talking about how all birth control causes health problems for me! Not just hair shedding but other things as well, but since this is a hair blog that is all I stated. Also it was a small tidbit of advice for anyone who has been in that type of situation! Abuse should NOT be tolerated! & being married is not a necessity! I could be married right now if I wanted to but that is not what I want at the moment! That's not where I need to be!

I hate it most when people make comments about others without knowing the whole story! You can have your opinion on something whatever it may be but why do you have to make it known before getting the whole story! I could put my whole life out there but I chose not to and the smallest bit of info I do give someone tries to twist it negatively! Why! it's unnecessary!

Being responsible is what I am about! Otherwise I would not be in my 4th yr of college about to graduate, major- Biology! Otherwise my kids would not be taken care of and the state would have them! Otherwise my kids would be miserable and not have a roof over their heads and clothes on their backs! Otherwise my cabinets and fridge would not be stuffed with food! I am a mother first and foremost and a student second! I hold down 2 jobs at once and still find time to help others and make youtube videos (which are very time consuming!) Those who do not appreciate me & what I do need to move on and unsubscribe!

Here is the comment that was posted by ANONYMOUS:

so you are 22 with not one, not two, but THREE kids and no husband?!?!? hmm...if I were you, that would be birth control enough for me... maybe you should prioritize your kids, and school, and by the time you finish all of that you won't have time for sex!!! :-) Also, remember, it's not just taking birth control so that you don't get pregnant yet again, it's being a responsible mother and woman, and setting a good example, and being a good role model for them, and not just doing any and everything in front of them, or having just any man around them....maybe you can at least try to prevent them from doing what you did...good luck.

It seems that this person may have meant well to a degree (yea right!) but this kind of thing pisses me off because they are saying I am not responsible, I don't prioritize the most important things in my life, and I am not a good role model and am doing all kinds of things in front of my children! WTF!!

You know NOTHING about me or how I'm living except for what I put on youtube! Who the hell are you!! Don't make assumptions about someone that you do not know because it is ignorant and you sound stupid! And thank you for making and ass of u and me (assume-get it lol)!

& I'm 23! & if I was so worried about having a man around I would have been married a long time ago! I did nothing wrong and am a grow woman! I do not condone teenage pregnancy and think its all ok! However I think that if you are in the right mindset, have a good support system, and are able to take care of you priorities it can be done and there is nothing wrong with it! There is nothing wrong with having kids as long as you can take care of them and prepare them for life! Also their is absolutely NOTHING wrong with being a single parent! Half of today's marriages end in divorce, mixed families are more and more common! I don't want to be married because truthfully a man cant do much for me that I cant or wouldn't rather do myself! Is a man going to pass my exams for me? Hell no!

Age is just a number and does not determine what kind of parent you will be! I know people 2x my age who still act like children! Come on! My age is nothing but how many years I have been on this earth! My age does not tell what I have been through, how I think, what I am doing with myself, or where I am going! I don't do drugs, I don't smoke, I don't drink! How would you know that what I am doing is inappropriate and I'm not teaching my kids right from wrong!

I have been on my own for years, and I don't ask anyone for anything! My kids go wanting for nothing! That is more than I can say for a LOT of people who have done it the "right" way! Marriage and all!
I'm 23 and I have way more than many people in their 30s! I am at a good place in my life I am happy and so are my babies! That is all that matters and it will do nothing but get better for us!

I feel like this is completely unnecessary but I just needed to get this out of my system! Not just because of this comment but also because of other people as well!

Don't bring your negativity to me cause like I said before I don't want it! Any stupidity will be deleted! If you want to have a debate on the issue then come correctly!

And thanks to this person there will be no more nameless comments on my blog! If you cant say whatever under your own name then your a coward! Don't come at me like that anonymously!!


Kamisha said...

That's unfortunately the down side of putting yourself out there through either blogging or vlogging. There is always going to be people out there with there own opinions, sometimes negative, and with the anonymity that comes with the commenting on blogs and videos on the internet, these negative people are more likely to do so. Ignore them, because at the end of the day you have to live with yourself and as long as you are content with your life and what your doing that's all that matters. I love reading your blog and watching your videos on hair and makeup. I'm newly natural, entering my 8th month, and also getting into makeup as well. You serve as a great resource for me and many others so thank you! <3

marand13 said...

Thank you! At least the majority of people have some sense! The rest of them....

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